How to stay calm and confident every day

The world today is very different from a decade or two ago and, as a result, our anxiety levels have sky-rocketed which means that we need to work even harder to maintain our confidence and calmness each day.

Over the past few years, I’ve become more aware of how stressful situations rattle me in certain ways yet I’ve also learnt to remind myself that I’m fully equipped to deal with them. Here are some examples of how to stay calm and confident each day:


Everything you have worked hard to achieve has led you to this moment in your career. Every degree, internship, professional relationship and work experience continue to lead you on your ambitious path to your ultimate podium of success. Remember this when you feel like you are about to have a meltdown, feel that you are not achieving your goals or are lacking confidence in your abilities.

“Women need to shift from thinking “I’m not ready to do that” to thinking “I want to do that – and I’ll learn by doing it.”

― Sheryl Sandberg, Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead

Sandra Sandberg encourages us to be the strong, confident woman we are and to take on every challenge to boost our personal growth. However, sometimes we work too hard, loose balance and burn out and I’ve learnt that sometimes you just need to log off, make a healthy meal and have a good night’s sleep to readjust your compass.



As any experienced traveller can attest to, there are times when you find yourself in a pickle. Perhaps you’re lost in a foreign city, don’t speak the language, have lost your money or passport and don’t have anyone to help you. I’ve been in similar situations where I feel completely out of control – so much so that I feel like I am literally levitating. It’s a really unnerving, unsettling sensation. After a while, I shake it off and calm myself down with a few long, deep breathes and remind myself that I am well equipped to deal with whatever comes my way. Sometimes the simple reminder ‘You’ve got this” restores your confidence and inner calmness. Everything works out in one way or another so have confidence that you’ll navigate your way to safety and that this experience will be a great story to share with your friends and family in the years to come.

“Our fear is of the unknown. Let go, throw yourself into the adventure itself. The fear fades into the air you breathe.” – 1001 Meditations



In today’s economic climate, we are all feeling the financial pressures – especially in South Africa. Sometimes I look at my credit card balances and have a complete wobbly and spiral into a whirlpool of stress and despair. However, once I’ve recovered from my mild panic attack, I realise that there are more important things in life to spend your energy on. I try to calm myself down, send out positive manifestations and have faith that the universe will guide me to a solution.


Everyone has their buttons that get pressed and trigger regretful reactions. Emotions are powerful and illogical thinking is sometimes set aside as your blood boils. Stop. Take a few deep breathes, walk it off and then take a step back, gain some perspective on the situation, decide how you want it to affect your future and react accordingly. Tempers may sore and the ego may feel threatened but when you find your inner calmness and acknowledge your confident core; your thoughts can redirect what happens next. Remember that your thoughts create reality.

“When life gets stormy, feel safe in the knowledge that the soul cannot be touched by external forces. Like a ship finding shelter in a haven, take refuge in your soul when things feel unsettled: it is the calm centre of your being.” – 1001 Meditations

Our everyday worries and concerns are nothing compared to the much bigger problems in the world; which has become my filter as I strive for a more balanced life in 2016.

Stay calm, breathe, manage each situation as best you can and have confidence that you can handle anything that is thrown your way. Sometimes it will feel impossible but it’s the tough situations that force you to grow and transform for the better. Ask and accept help from friends and family, don’t over-analyse situations, forgive, let things go and remember that tomorrow is a new day.

Each morning while you’re sipping on your first cuppa for the day, take the opportunity to centre yourself in calmness, switch on a positive attitude, make a plan of action and create a day that exceeds your expectations so that you smile as you drift off to sleep at night.

By Katie Wilter

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